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grow and learn with intuitionThe last couple months I haven’t been on the blogging scene.  I know this goes against common “marketing” practices, however what I have found for myself is that I go through cycles of what I call “cocooning.”  Sure, I could force myself to write during these times, but since I’m all about listening to my intuition, that would kinda go against the grain of what I believe.

Here’s what I’ve come to learn and know.  What it means during these times where I just don’t feel quite as inspired to be sending out blogs, I have always been in a period of growth and learning.   Sometimes it’s a result of something that has happened within my life and I need time to process and understand (not in a traumatic way…it can be something very simple to trigger greater clarity).  Other times it comes from a shifting on the inside…and I’m not always entirely sure where it’s coming from.  BUT I do trust it’s leading me somewhere even better!

By allowing myself the time to let it all just sink in without the pressure of having to stick to some sort of self-imposed timeline, I come back to my writing with more clarity, purpose, and a deeper understanding…which I then get to share with you!  See…it’s really a win-win!!!

BUT just because I haven’t been on the blogging scene, doesn’t mean I haven’t been on the creating scene!  I’ve had several things going on behind the scenes, one of which had been an ebook I had collaborated and put together called The Soulful Parent: How to Nurture Your Child’s True Self and Set the Stage for Growth, Success, and Fulfillment.  If you haven’t got your hands on this ebook yet, click on the image to GRAB YOUR FREE COPY NOW:

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So, with that said, I’m feeling inspired and excited to see the unfolding of the rest of our story. Stay tuned…

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Trisha SavoiaTrisha Savoia is founder/owner of Absolute Awareness, and creator of the The Integrity Code, and The Soulful Parent Programs. Through her programs, writing, and speaking she uses her skills, experience, and intuition as a mother, teacher, and Clinical Hypnotherapist to help guide parents to recover their true selves and their intuition, while at the same time learn how to parent so their children can do the same.

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TIME.  That one word can cause so much angst. Most of us feel we don’t have enough of it.  We get caught up in worry that we aren’t where we want to be, or we’ll never get it all done.  A lot of our concerns are wrapped up in this one word.  I certainly know I have been guilty of this.

 

Over the last few weeks, I knew my body was giving me the message to let go of the need of “getting it all done.”  And even though I was well aware of the message, I was trying to bargin with myself, saying, “Yeah, yeah, I will relax more, but just let me get this one last thing done.”  And then I’d get that done, and something else came up, and I’d say the same thing, “Ok, ok, seriously, after this, I really will do something that feeds my soul, and re-energizes my spirit.”

 

Well, that can continue on and on, and it did for me for a few weeks, until my body said, “Well,  we’ve given you plenty of messages, and even held off for awhile believing your lame excuses, but it appears you’re just not going to listen, so we will make you relax ourself.” …And it did.

 

Message heard loud and clear.  Even though it has only been a cold, it was enough to wipe me out, so that I really couldn’t focus on anything but myself.

 

I’ve of course had these messages before, and always know what they mean, however for some reason this time, I really took it to heart, and fully understood the deeper lesson here.  We truly need time to nurture ourselves without any agenda attached.  I felt I didn’t have the time to give myself fully over to surrendering and trusting that it will all get done in the end, even though I have so much evidence that this is always true.  However, by not allowing myself some non-productive, self-nurturing time, my body forced me to take that time, and by that time I didn’t even get a choice in how I could spend it.  I now needed to spend it nurturing myself back to health.

 

So, lesson learned.  I will get the time, and it’s up to me whether I take it of my own accord, or not.

 

If we relax enough and trust that everything is happening exactly as it is meant to be, the worry of time dissipates and we can begin to enjoy the journey we are on and give ourselves the nurturing that we need….always knowing we are exactly where we need to be.

To learn more about my work visit http://www.AbsoluteAwareness.ca

Trisha Savoia is founder/owner of Absolute Awareness, and creator of the Moms Who Want More Program.  Through her programs, writing, and speaking she uses her skills and experience as a mother, teacher, & Clinical Hypnotherapist to mentor moms who want more out of their lives – mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

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UNEXPECTED GIFTS FROM A GETAWAY

 

Here is part 2 of the 6 part “Unexpected Gifts From a Getaway” blog series.  Click here if you’d like to start at the beginning.

 

As I mentioned last week, I had eagerly been anticipating my 3 day getaway to Banff, only to get there and on the second day come to realize that it wasn’t going quite how I expected.  This little getaway ended up bringing about amazing lessons that I clearly needed to learn, and that I am going to continue sharing with you here.

 

The first thing that time to myself in Banff helped me realize is that I had denied myself the permission to feel what I was feeling, because I was too focused on where I was going.  I’m all for putting your energy in the direction you want to be heading, but definitely not at the expense of losing touch with what your emotions are telling you.

 

Obviously this was the reason why I so strongly felt that I had to get away where I could be with myself without obligations, schedules, commitments, or interruptions.  I needed to provide myself with the space to recognize what I was doing…which was not listening all that well.

 

Even with my daily practice of meditating, journaling, and reading, some pent up emotion was left untapped, and all I needed was a little more focused time on myself and my needs in order for it to surface.  By 2:00pm of the afternoon of my second day I was back to feeling happy and appreciating the rest of my stay.  AND I no longer had the tension and shortness of breath I had the previous day!

 

BUT…the learning was not done!

 

After spending a bit of time just doing whatever I felt like doing, the idea of “I have all this precious time; wouldn’t it be great if I could use some of it to “get ahead of the game” with my writing.”

 

As soon as that thought entered, I no longer was enjoying the moment…I was now back to looking ahead, and seeing how much I could accomplish.  The idea of allowing myself permission to do whatever I felt like doing were now fleeting moments.

 

All of a sudden I was once again filled with tension, impatience, frustration, and unease.  I knew I didn’t feel like using my time that way; my gut was telling me to just relax and enjoy, BUT my head was telling me what a great opportunity to “get stuff done” – no interruptions, no commitments, no obligations.  My higher self and ego mind were battling it out!

 

What hit me like a ton of bricks was that although I was calling this time in Banffa getaway for me-time, what I really was hoping to do was also sneak in some productivity time (stay tuned for an upcoming blog in this series regarding the price of productivity).  It was a ruse for being able to spend some time writing, which I am so passionate about, without having to justify saying “no” to so many other personal and business responsibilities and opportunities.

 

However, even with that, I could feel the pressure I was putting on myself to “produce” great writing material, and that in itself was weighing heavily on me.  I love writing, and I committed to myself that I would only put out material that I felt was valuable, however I had a desire to get “ahead of the game” with writing so that I didn’t feel pressure each week about putting out a blog.

 

My underlying thinking was if I could get away for awhile, I could really kill two birds with one stone.  I could have some time to myself, and also find some time to write without having to answer the phone, reply to emails, meet self-imposed deadlines, clean the house, do the laundry, make meals, and on and on it goes.

 

However once I got to Banff, my heart was calling me to just let it all go…forget about killing two birds with one stone, and just follow the direction that my heart was leading.  If I felt like sitting and gazing at the mountains, then do that; if I felt like going for a walk; then do that; if I felt like writing; then do that; if I felt like reading; then do that…just let it all go, knowing that there is no right or wrong answer, and that if I listen to what I need it will all get done in perfect timing.

 

What I realize now is, I wouldn’t have felt the urgency to shut myself off from the world if I was pacing myself at a rate which my “higher self” was urging me to.  Drive and perseverance kept me from fully listening.  Now don’t get me wrong, I was listening to the guided action I was receiving, BUT due to my laser focus on where I was heading, I wasn’t listening quite as well to the signs when they started telling me it was now time to slow down and allow the seeds I had been planting take root.

 

Even the thought of going back home brought feelings of stress and unease because I was going back to a pace that I set which was starting to make me unbalanced (stay tuned to an upcoming blog in this series regarding my belief about the true nature of balance; I have a whole new perspective on that).

 

I had become really great at creating balance in my personal life through creating boundaries, being able to say NO, finding time for myself, letting go of “shoulds” and obligations, etc.  And although that in itself had its own learning curve, I found it relatively easy (easy to say it was easy now…I don’t think I thought that at the time!) to do because so many of the things that I was now saying no to and creating boundaries around I didn’t want in my life.

 

It’s a lot easier to say no to things that you don’t want anyway, BUT what I was finding was that it takes a whole new level of commitment to yourself to say No to things that you do want, but know aren’t right for you right now.

 

Being in a business that I am so passionate and driven about, has created a whole new level of learning and trust.  I truly only do the things that I feel passionate and drawn to, HOWEVER, I am finding so many things that I am passionate and drawn to that I once again was finding myself in a state of unbalance, but at a whole new level.

 

This new level, has now forced me to tune into my emotions and intuition to a greater degree than I ever have before, and what it has made me realize is that I need to fine tune my emotional guidance because although there are so many things I want to do, my body physically cannot keep up with the pace I had been setting…and if I keep up at this pace, I will take away the joy from the things that I now enjoy doing. 

 

Therein lies lesson #3 – if we try to keep up with an unsustainable pace, we eventually take the joy out of it, and find ourselves needing to escape.

 

Stay tuned next week for lesson 3 in the series “Unexpected Gifts From a Getaway.”

 

To learn more about my work visit http://www.AbsoluteAwareness.ca

 

Trisha Savoia is founder/owner of Absolute Awareness, and creator of the Moms Who Want More Program.  Through her programs, writing, and speaking she uses her skills and experience as a mother, teacher, & Clinical Hypnotherapist to mentor moms who want more out of their lives – mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

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UNEXPECTED GIFTS FROM A GETAWAY

 

Some of you may know that last week I went to Banfffor a three day getaway.  I really looked forward to this time to myself.  I knew I needed it.  HOWEVER, I didn’t understand the full reason of why I really needed it.

 

I will share the reasons of why I really needed it in a 6 part series I decided to call “Unexpected Gifts From A Getaway.”  I am sharing the lessons I learned while there, as well as some of the ripple effect lessons I learned as a result…and they may not be what you expect.  My hope is that some parts of these awarenesses I came to will also serve a purpose for you.

 

I spent 3 full days in Banff, and the first day was exactly how I had imaged and envisioned it.  I got to Banff early, went straight to Starbuck’s to have my Chai Latte while settling in to write in my journal and doing some reading.

 

Everywhere I went I ensured that I always had an amazing view to look at.  For lunch I had the perfect table where I was in a direct line of vision with the mountains.  From there I went to hang out at the Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel.  I had never been there before, so when I found a quiet tea room overlooking the river with the mountains as a backdrop, I felt like I was in total bliss.  From there I then went to check-in to my own hotel, which was modest in comparison to theFairmont, but a perfect setting for me.  I had requested amountain view with a balcony, and when I walked in the was sun beaming into the room…I was thrilled.

 

All in all day one was great!  Although I do have to admit I did notice that I had some shallow breathing going on, where every once in awhile I had to take a deep breath so that I felt I was getting all the oxygen I needed.  I know this is a sign of tension, so it seemed odd to me that I would be feeling some tension considering the environment I was now in.

 

Come day two, I was a little surprised to find that as the morning was unfolding I felt a sadness engulfing me.  I had noticed it starting the night before, however chalked it up to being tired.  But, unfortunately I couldn’t ignore the fact that there was a lingering sadness.  I carried on with my plans, and had walked to Starbuck’s for my morning Chai Latte, journaling, and reading.  I spent a couple hours there and couldn’t ignore the fact that something was weighing on me…I had a persistent heaviness in my chest that refused to subside until I acknowledged it.

 

Initially, I kept trying to put it out of my mind, because this was not the “plan.”  I was here to enjoy my “me-time”, relish in the beauty surrounding me, and let the mountainous energy revitalize me.  I have to admit, I was a little frustrated and confused at first.  It did not make sense.  I was doing what I wanted to be doing…what was the problem?

 

Finally, I had to acknowledge that things, meaning my emotional state, weren’t going quite how I had expected.  With that acknowledgment, I decided to do some journaling around it, and be honest with myself for why these emotions were rising up.  Through the process of just letting it all pour out without constraint, it became apparent what was weighing on me.  And to be honest it was unexpected.

 

I had obviously been suppressing some emotion without even knowing it.  I actually hadn’t realized that it had affected me on a deeper level than I was willing to admit to myself.  With this new awareness, I knew it was now time to release it.

 

As synchronicity would have it, I then went to a little café, once again with an amazing view, and as I was waiting for my soup to arrive I decided to read a page from a book that I had brought along with me, but hadn’t yet opened.  As I read the page, I was awed and amazed (okay, not really, because these things happen so often…but I was truly thankful) that what I was reading was a direct answer to being able to let go of my sadness.  All it was, was a shift in my perspective, and it made all the difference.

 

As I got back to my room, giving myself permission to let go of any expectations that I had of my day, I felt my sadness and tension in my chest lift.

 

What I realized from this happening is how easily we can get caught up in our everyday busy lives, and not allow ourselves the time and solitude we need to acknowledge what our emotional side needs.

 

For me it had taken the removal of myself from the hub of the activity, so that I could slow down enough to listen…and I had prided myself on how well I was able to slow down…ouch, tough pill to swallow!  (Okay that’s a bit of an exaggeration, I am always open to learning new things and taking myself to the next level, and this is what this felt like for me.)

 

I have always been an advocate of allowing yourself to feel your feelings (without getting caught in the cycle of repeating the story over and over, hence continuing to create more of the same) and once you’ve done that ….to then set your mind in the direction that you want to be going.

 

The last statement of the previous paragraph turned out to be my next lesson…

 

Stay tuned to next week’s lesson number 2 in the blog series “Unexpected Gifts from a Getaway.”  Yep, the learning is just beginning!  I’ve only dipped my toes into the water so far.

 

To learn more about my work visit http://www.AbsoluteAwareness.ca

 

Trisha Savoia is founder/owner of Absolute Awareness, and creator of the Moms Who Want More Program.  Through her programs, writing, and speaking she uses her skills and experience as a mother, teacher, & Clinical Hypnotherapist to mentor moms who want more out of their lives – mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

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